No. Fairness is not getting want you want - it's getting what you need. No, literal "equality" is not the goal, because everyone is different. My starting point and my goal is the ideal of my grandparents:

From each according to ability,

To each according to need.

Each of us has different abilities; each of us have different needs. So when I say something is unfair or unequal, I mean it is blocking someone's opportunity to contribute to society to the best of their abilities; or it is blocking someone from receiving what they need, when we have the capability to provide it.