What's wrong with a "strong, aggressive black woman?" Add beautiful, brilliant and creative to that, and you have a partial description of the Love of my Life, who found me on a dating service nearly three decades ago. We need more, not less, strong role models for our daughters and granddaughters. Here is one (with a little tweaking of her story):

https://thebolditalic.com/the-black-amazon-queen-who-gave-her-name-to-california-623c4c898927